transformational Personal Development Coach
Coaching Available in all 50 States & Internationally
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Coaching Available in all 50 States & Internationally 〰️
Death to Over-Functioning & People Pleasing.
I provide coaching for Black women and other women of color who want to disrupt patterns of sacrificing self for others that’s often rooted in narratives of people pleasing.
The unique intersection of your race and gender compounds the struggles you face in both your personal and professional life.
Does this sound familiar?
Feeling held to a higher standard or expectation than peers?
Constant pressure to perform, but also punished for being ambitious?
Lack of support from managers, colleagues, family, friends, and/or partner?
Being the “token” person of color at work and expected to be the Defacto DEI representative?
Never-ending anxiety about confirming negative stereotypes about your racial and/or gender group? Can you NEVER be angry or not have a smile on your face?
Feeling like you don’t deserve your accomplishments OR fearing that you’ll be found out as a fraud?
Nonstop efforts to balance multiple responsibilities—including work, finances, family, racism, misogynoir—while also not letting down your community?
Navigating the delicate balance between assertiveness and perceived aggressiveness?
Exhaustion from the emotional tightrope of managing all the facets of your life?
We Are taught early on…
that our lives are primarily meant to be in service to others, which makes us feel selfish for wanting to prioritize ourselves, our needs, and our wants.
This is especially true when you’ve “made it” and experienced some amount of success or accolades in life.
You might feel like you don’t have the “right” to complain or talk about the challenges you face.
You may feel guilty because you’re now in a new tax bracket and have it “better” than your friends and family.
But here’s the thing—-two things can be true at the same time!
You can be appreciative and grateful for where you are AND you get to be real about the pain and struggle.
Others may only see the shiny benefits of your position, but they often have no idea what it costs you on a daily basis.
As a pastor once said, “new levels, new devils.”
Coaching is your space to be real about how you feel and what you experience.
You get to lament about the dissatisfaction you feel in your career or your relationships.
You get to rage at the systems of oppression you are forced to contend with every single day and that seek to steal your joy, peace, and personhood.
You get to be real about your struggle to advocate for your needs in your personal life even though you are a bad-ass in the workplace.
All I’m really saying is that here, with me, you get to be complex.
You get to not have all (or any) answers.
You get to express the full range of your emotions and thoughts without judgment or shame.
You get to work through what it is you actually want for your life and strategize a plan to get it.
Coaching focuses on transforming your relationship with yourself and your past, so that you can let go of what is no longer serving you and transform your relationships with others.
The goal is not simply behavior modification but to empower you to rethink what’s possible for your life entirely—and recognize your own capacity for change and creating the life you want.
I help you to...
enhance self-discovery and awareness.
boost your self-confidence.
break limiting patterns and mindsets to unlock your potential.
improve your communication skills to get what you want.
gain clarity of your purpose and goals.
overcome obstacles in your professional and/or personal life.
find harmony with your work and life responsibilities.
elevate your mental and emotional health and wellness.
I am the accountability partner you need to take consistent action and stay the course to achieve your goals.
Coaching Options.
Single Session.
(1) 90-minute laser session.
Benefits:
In-depth exploration of a specific issue or goal.
Address immediate challenges or obstacles.
Identify blind spots, patterns, and opportunities for growth.
Achieve rapid insights and breakthroughs.
Leave the session with a clear action plan outlining steps to move forward.
3-Month Package.
(6) 60-minute sessions.
Benefits:
Gain clarity on your goals, values, and priorities.
More time to explore your emotions, fears, and doubts and space to express yourself more fully and authentically.
Extended sessions allow for a more comprehensive exploration of underlying causes to the obstacles you face and development and testing of more comprehensive solutions.
Learn to identify limiting beliefs and patterns that may be holding you back and develop strategies for overcoming them.
Impactful experience that can lead to meaningful insights, growth, and transformation.
6-Month Package.
(12) 60-minute sessions.
Benefits:
Ample time to work on sustained personal growth and development.
Exploration of deeper issues and the implementation of lasting changes.
Opportunity to address various aspects of your lives, including career, relationships, health, and personal fulfillment.
Goals are broken down into manageable steps, increasing the likelihood of success.
Ample opportunity to develop new skills and habits that support your personal growth objectives—i.e. improving communication, time management, or emotional intelligence.
Regular check-ins and progress assessments help you stay motivated and on track towards your goals.
Gain greater self-awareness and insight into your thoughts, feelings, and behaviors.
Experience a boost in confidence and resilience as you make progress towards your goals and overcome obstacles.
Improved quality of life as you learn effective coping strategies, self-care practices, and stress management techniques.
Greater personalization and customization of interventions to best suit your preferences, learning style, and areas of focus.
Long-lasting benefits that extend far beyond the duration of the program—you’ll be equipped with tools and resources you can continue to use in your personal and professional life.
My Coaching process.
Active listening.
The most crucial and effective technique I embody is that of an active listener–without judgment.
Many of us do not know what it is like to have someone’s full, undivided attention–to be deeply attuned to.
My number one priority is to seek to understand your perspectives, emotions, and underlying motivations.
Learning you, seeing you, validating you, making space for you, is my highest and most important objective.
You deserve for your full self to be beheld and honored.
Self-awareness.
When was the last time you had the time or space to think deeply about what it is you really want for your life?
Or maybe you do have the time, but feel like you’ve taken yourself as far as you can go…maybe you’ve been sensing that there’s more to unlock than you have been able to access.
I ask the thought-provoking questions that encourage you to explore your strengths, weaknesses, values, beliefs and goals, and challenge you to think deeply and gain insights into yourself.
We will then leverage your strengths to build on what you do well to boost your confidence and performance.
Goal Alignment &Action Planning.
Do you have a broad idea of what you want to achieve or where you want to go in your life, but have no clue how to get there? I get it.
Or are you that girl who has the plan displayed beautifully on your vision board?
Let me ask you this…how are you doing with the execution? Have we veered off course?? No shade, I’m speaking from experience!
I help guide you in not only defining clear objectives but also in creating actionable steps.
We will break down larger aspirations into manageable steps to keep you on track and ensure your progress.
I also assist you in aligning your goals with your core values.
Sometimes goals are hard to stay committed to when they are not in harmony with what you really value.
The struggle might be an indication that you need to revisit, refine, or pivot.
Limiting Belief Identification & Reframing.
What you believe about you shapes how you show up in the world and what you are able to achieve.
Do you know what limiting beliefs are hindering your progress and blocking you from the life and love you say you want?
By uncovering and challenging these beliefs you can begin to replace them with empowering thoughts and attitudes that will be the catalyst for the growth, healing, and transformation that you are seeking.
Accountability & Motivation.
One of the main benefits clients say they love about their coaching relationship with me is that I hold them accountable to their commitments.
Regular check-ins and progress assessments will help you stay on track and committed to your personal development journey.
Life has a way of lifing and distractions can subtly derail even the best laid plans.
Yes, you will be empowered to take ownership of your personal growth, but you will not be in this process alone.
I’m here to walk with you, and provide encouragement, support, validation…and challenge.
You carry the weight of the world on your shoulders on the daily…here, you don’t have to do the hard work on your own.
Are you ready to be partners in crime?
Self-Reflection & Journaling.
Do you crave objective, unbiased feedback about what you do, feel, and think?
A big part of our work together will involve constructive feedback to help you recognize areas for improvement AND to celebrate your successes.
Reflection exercises will enable you to gain insights from your experiences and make adjustments as needed.
Journaling and other reflective exercises will help you explore your thoughts, emotions, and experiences to promote deeper understanding, self-discovery, and clarity.
Stress Management & Resilience Building.
Say it with me…”Setbacks are inevitable.”
Okay, now breathe, it’s gonna be okay.
For so many of us failure sends us on a shame spiral because we were never allowed to mess up or make mistakes.
Real talk, did you get yelled at if you spilled something as a kid? I know I did.
And you know what that taught me?
That taught me to be deathly afraid of doing something wrong, of making others upset.
And at its most fundamental level, it’s taught me to be afraid of being human.
Do you know how much work it takes to NOT be human? Of course you do…I know you do.
So, can we journey back to being human?
That means embracing, and dare I say celebrating, the reality that the journey is about progress not perfection…that takes so much pressure off!
I want to help you free yourself from the oppressive myth that missing the mark somehow means that your entire being and self is a failure.
You will be equipped to separate what you do from who you are, and learn tools for managing stress, coping with setbacks, and developing resilience.
You will never make the big leaps towards what you truly want if you are unwilling to tolerate the discomfort of maybe not getting it right on the first try or being so afraid of what others might think about you that you never even try.
It’s time to divest from the bondage of overthinking and shame that keep you paralyzed and stuck in only living in your daydreams.
Let’s make what you desire a reality!
Holistic Approach.
All aspects of life are interconnected–career, relationships, health, finances, spirituality, ALL OF IT.
And your personal development and transformation requires a holistic approach.
While not every aspect of your life will be an explicit focus for us, what will become clear is that what you think, feel, and believe in one area of your life affects how you show up in others.
Your faith affects how you manage your relationships and money. Your health affects your career plans and goals, and so on.
The goal is to move from toxic compartmentalization that leaves you self-unaware (yes, I think I just made up that phrase) to a state of healthy integration so you can operate from a place of clarity and insight in all dimensions of your life.
Ready to Build the Life you’ve been dreaming of?
coaching vs therapy…what’s the difference?
You might benefit from therapy if:
You are experiencing clinical levels of distress—think major depression, debilitating anxiety, and significant trauma, just to name a few.
You’d like to explore and process childhood trauma or other salient events from your past, especially as it relates to current distress and/or dysfunction.
Your day-to-day functioning is compromised—you have a subjective sense that you are not okay and are operating below your baseline.
Coaching might be the best fit for you if:
You are experiencing relative balance in your psychological well-being but are dealing with a sense that your life is not quite where you want it to be in some area.
You are facing one (or more) of these common coaching issues:
career/work dissatisfaction
relationship issues (family, friend, romantic)
increased self-knowledge and awareness
navigating a major life decision
learning to establish and enforce boundaries
In sum, anything that poses as a barrier to you living your best life and becoming your highest self is a potential focus of coaching.
Still have a burning question???